Most people can converse with themselves.
Regardless of it being a good one or a bad one.
Imagine Your Thoughts Without Words.
No words to guide you, no voice helping you to navigate thoughts or decision.
This is something I have.
Many of you may think.
"You're so lucky."
"My inner voice just doesn't shut up."
But here's the thing..
You are the lucky ones.
I spoken to a bunch of my friends and family members and 100% of them say they have conversation with themselves.
I heard countless stories of people talking down to themselves though this internal dialogue..
I see scenarios in my head. I then have to translate that to into words and requires deliberate effort.
When I do a talk out loud alone, I'm not having conversations with myself.
I'm rehearsing for something, either for the camera or someone I might end to talking to later.
But why is it that many people have it?
It's not like it's a natural human behavior since words and grammar structures are artificial abstracts in all languages.
I can only assume someone or something indirectly taught you internal monologue. And for the people who doesn't have it like me didn't learn it while we were young.
The difficulties of not having the ability to talk to yourself.
Reading Comprehension
Silent reading can take a long time, and recalling what we read can take longer than usual because there isn't a voice to help process or remember the content.
When you see something or hear something. I can recall that without a problem.
I do want to address that it's not 100% of the time but I remember what I saw or heard way better than what I read. But I do not have a conversation to myself when I recall it. I think this is also common for people with internal monologue too.
Articulating Thoughts:
Translating complex thoughts or emotions spoken or written language can be more difficult when you're not accustomed to verbalizing them to yourself.
When I try to explain what I'm thinking, or when someone tells me to explain my "thought process". I don't have my internal me telling me what to say. I do have to create or build a scenario of whatever I'm describing and then have it play out. Then I have to translate that into actual words.
I can think about what I'm about to say. But I don't conversate with myself with those words. It just comes out of nowhere. Sometimes I would think about what I said… (Again as a scenario) and think if what I said was good or cringe to me.
I tell other people how I feel or thinking about.
Value of Internal Dialogue
I hear here there are a lot of negative convesations happening in your head.
However, you have many easily actionable resources that you can easily contextualize.
You know what there are a lot of resources on?
Affirmations, Incantations, Mantras, or whatever. That involves words to talk to yourself.
You have the concept of talking to yourself. Why not use the affirmation provided and change the way how you talk to yourself?
I believe this is the whole Angel and Demon thing that you see in the old cartoons.
Except it's not about telling you morality of your actions but on how you think about yourself.
You have let the demon take power giving no attention to the angel. It was ignored because the demon's vision was very attractive.
What he's feeding you tastes so good that you want more of it.
You don't even know you are even doing it.
You can change that by taking that first step by actually doing the action.
You may not believe it but you can train yourself to say it until you believe it.
Techniques I'm doing, to develop a internal monologue.
Remember what I said before about people with the internal dialogue that you can train yourself to say the affirmation to themselves until you believe it?
I also believe that you can train yourself to learn how to talk to yourself.
I said before that words, grammar, dialogue is an artificial abstract.
Language is something made by humans. In other words, it's not inherit.
Meaning you learned how to do this from somewhere, especially when you were young.
One thing I didn't really give a shot when I was younger was journaling.
There were attempts to try to journal, but not following through with it.
The one thing I believe have the highest chance of working for me is training to talk to myself using these affirmations.
At first it's going to feel like I'm just saying the words to nothing.
Eventually it might fall into what I currently do is talking to rehearse. This is the part where I have to put in a mental effort to really start to feel to have a conversation.
It's not a step-by-step system that I'm giving myself. I believe that this will happen naturally.
It might not happen the way I described it, it can go in a completely different direction.
It may not happen at all.
But how would I know it won't happen at all if I didn't try to do it and believe that it'll work?
Not trying it at all guarentees that it won't work because well… you didn't even give it a go.
If I do it without believing that it'll work then why do it at all?
Don't get me wrong, my logical brain has skeptism in this but the same logical brain also knows that you have to believe in something for it to work too.
That is a clash and I will choose to focus on the belief instead.
I'm also doing hand written journals and digital journaling too.
Although I don't think it'll be as effective but I do think it will have some effect.
I'm sure as I gradually start having conversation with myself, the journaling will be the exponential power play.
If you don't have a inner monologue.
If you want to have one, then I would encourage you to try to
You do this because you feel like you must do it.
Not because you think it'll happen
Or not because it'll magically happen.
You have to believe that it will happen.
Be able to start articulating your thoughts to yourself clearer.
You already have the abundance of though through images, patterns, or like me scenarios.
Now imagine turning all that into a conversational piece with yourself. In which you can turn that into writing or a converation with another person where the sentences are already structured in your head because you already told yourself what you're going to say.
I am doing this because I want to hear the affirmations to work at the level I want it to be.
Conclusion:
Whether you have a internal monologue or not, we all can always improve.
This is going to take time and effort. The effort isn't going to be a lot and would make it very easy to fall off.
For those of you with that inner voice, remember the power you already have to shape your thoughts.
And for those like me, seeking to develop this dialogue, it's going to take practice, it's going to take patience, and it's going to take belief in the process.
Give it a shot, not because you're certain it will work, but because you believe in the potential of your own mind to evolve.
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Until next time, remember to always improve.